signs of obsession

• An instant attraction to romantic interest, usually occurring within the first few minutes of meeting.

• An immediate urge to rush into a relationship regardless of compatibility.

• Becoming "hooked on the look" of another, focusing on the person's physical characteristics while ignoring personality differences.

• Unrealistic fantasies about a relationship with a love interest, assigning "magical" qualities to an object of affection.

• The beginnings of obsessive, controlling behaviors begin to manifest.

• Unfounded thoughts of infidelity on the part of a partner and demanding accountability for normal daily activities.

• An overwhelming fear of abandonment, including baseless thoughts of a partner walking out on the relationship in favor of another person.

• The need to constantly be in contact with a love interest via phone, email or in person.

• Strong feelings of mistrust begin to emerge, causing depression, resentment and relational tension.

• The continuation and escalation of obsessive, controlling behaviors.

• The onset of "tunnel vision," meaning that the relationally dependent person cannot stop thinking about a love interest and required his or her constant attention.

• Neurotic, compulsive behaviors, including rapid telephone calls to love interest's place of residence or workplace.

• Unfounded accusations of "cheating" due to extreme anxiety.

• "Drive-bys" around a love interest's home or place of employment, with the goal of assuring that the person is at where "he or she is supposed to be."

• Physical or electronic monitoring activities, following a love interest's whereabouts throughout the course of a day to discover daily activities.

• Extreme control tactics, including questioning a love interest's commitment to the relationship (guilt trips) with the goal of manipulating a love interest into providing more attention.

• Overwhelming feelings of depression (feeling "empty" inside).

• A sudden loss of self-esteem, due to the collapse of the relationship.

• Extreme feelings of self-blame and at times, self-hatred.

• Anger, rage and a desire to seek revenge against a love interest for breaking off the relationship.

• Denial that the relationship has ended and attempting to "win a loved one back" by making promises to "change".

• The use of drugs, alcohol, food or sex to "medicate" the emotional pain.



  • XefroX | November 25, 2008 at 12:21 AM

    hmmm hmm hmmm...nice post...btw i see some of this from u too..hehehehe..."true story"


  • Shaha | November 25, 2008 at 12:28 AM

    According to this...
    Im not obsessed.. Yipee..

  • arykko | November 25, 2008 at 2:40 AM

    you see some of it from me???? xeffy a hedhi eh nulhemey adhi eh :P ulhey dhuvahakun stalk kuranan ingey ???

  • XefroX | November 25, 2008 at 9:10 AM

    ohh shit... next time dho...kekekek

  • Anonymous | July 30, 2009 at 2:30 PM

    kinda experiencing these signs.not a great feeling i must, i neeeedddd serious help.

  • Anonymous | June 20, 2010 at 10:12 PM

    ok some advice the guy im dating txts me throughout the entire day i mean i have to empty my inbox at least 3-4 times a day because of it constantly telling me he loves me that he would go crazy without me and i were to end the relationship he would die. i cant walk into a store without him being right on me (kinda feels like he is marking his territory) every time a song comes on puts it in terms of "how wonderful our relationship is and how magical it is that the song is playing that at that moment" all of this in just a week of dating. is he in love or obsessed

  • Anonymous | September 19, 2010 at 5:43 PM

    well like around 4 or 5 thinqs on here are true of my so called boyfriend frm over a yea.he constitly qts jelous if a quy looks at me he touches me in front of everyone to show im his territory he calls me toomuch leaves over 16 messaqes in my voice mail nd plans marryn me blames that im cheatn nd ask constant questions wher am i wher have i been,nd fiqhts wif me when i dont aqree to him if i tell him to calm down that im not cheatin.he acts like he wants to hit me.he says he would.he dedicates lots sonqs to me.he want me to have kids wif him nd will be mad at me if i dont pick up the phone nd if i dont my "punishment" happens.nd he says im his property nd there will no man after this obssesion? i think it is.sum1 help me:(

  • Sweet Tee | October 25, 2010 at 6:53 AM

    Well i want to know if am obsessed but when i read i see a few things that i do like drive by his work and home sometimes, but i do it cause he lie alot and i caught him lieing more than once, so i guess am not obsess. thnk God!!!!

  • Anonymous | June 25, 2011 at 9:02 PM

    she's a co-worker. she's married, i'm married. she doesn't have a child yet within 4 years of marriage, i have a 9month old daughter in 2 year marriage. i accompanied her home a couple of times. we talked about her husband how she ended up with him, we talked about how i wondered what it would be like if we're the ones together, she giggled on some of my jokes, she's blushing when i tried to tell her how i feel about her and pinched me and sometimes hit me on my shoulder. she smile a lot when i stare at her. i can't stop thinking about her...sometimes i can't even sleep. i usually tries to look for reasons to be with her. i always wants to see her and stare at her.i got jealous when someone from our clients or some co-workers tease her. we're friends but she made it clear to me that its all we ever could be. its just been going for a week but we've been co-workers for the past 2 and a half years. am i obsessed or not?

  • Anonymous | December 16, 2011 at 4:20 PM

    Wow this is scary bcuz I dated someone with all these symptoms and when I tried to end it he hired someone to kill me, I was shot 4x and luckily I'm not paralyzed just have a broken arm.. He told me if we ever broke up he rather be dead or in jail. I took everything he said And did lightly, he stalked me at my house n job. I wish I woulda been smarter I could of avoided a lot that went on. He also vandalized my car and family members cars as well. Ladies, don't take any words lightly learn from my experience, please. I want to help woman to be more careful so they won't go through what I went through. Not many people survive from 1 bullet. I consider myself lucky and hope I can make a difference in lives.

  • Anonymous | July 13, 2012 at 2:55 AM

    My girlfriend has all these qualities and more, its even worse now coz she is pregnant with my child...its a nightmare, i cant even describe fully what i am going through. The stressful part is i want out of this relationship, tried breaking up with her but failed. Somebody, anybody please help...PLEEEEEASE

  • Anonymous | January 3, 2013 at 1:35 PM

    I have
    *Attracted from when we first met
    *Wanting to be with him 9 months after we met and were starting to be friends
    *Thinking of him constantly
    *Always wanting his attention.
    I've known him for 4 years and we've been close friends since. I'm an outcast at school with Cerebral Palsy (it only affects me physically, I have to walk holding onto a walker and furniture at home.) and a low self-esteem. He's a really popular jock that a lot of girls like and he's always been kind to me. He's the only guy that is actually, and when I get bullied and tell him he gets irritated. He asks me who did it and I tell. After that it doesn't happen anymore, maybe he makes them stop? Idk, but anyway, I say I love him. In your opinion, do I love him or am I obsessed? There are many insane people in my family so I have to know if I'm one of them.

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